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The best advice I’ve ever received.

How many times has it happened that we have received a lot of advice and suggestions? Many times I believe. To add to it, many of these are similar to each other in some cases yet the point is: why is it that only some drive home the message? I guess there are surrounding factors to it. Maybe the experience we may be going through or the context in which we receive the advice…

There is a lot of advice I’ve received but this one has stayed with me like no other advice. All of us were once a student and we have been there, done that: we have been typical students at a point in time.

During my master's, I was facing some issues with one of the subjects (typical student problems ;)). As usual, we were playing the blame game and yes, you guessed it right, the blame was on the teacher and her teaching skills. A genuine and helping person that she was, we were concerned with her teaching skills at that point in time. We were standing next to the door of our classroom cribbing about how bad things were with this one teacher when our HOD walked out of his cabin for a smoke break (oh yes, that one was a ritual for him). He somehow knew what we were talking about. While he was passing by us, without stopping, he told us one thing – Don’t complain, learn to compliment – and he walked outside the building.

We may have received this advice time and again but it takes that moment to sink in. That was my moment! After that sunk in, my perspective changed. The people who knew that 2012 version of me may want to disagree because I have cribbed about some things then (purely academic cribbing :p) but I did try to implement the advice then and do it even now. Goes without saying, it has helped immensely.

It is our perspective that helps us overcome a difficult situation and this advice fits perfectly. There actually is something positive in every negative situation. The question is: are we viewing it with the right filter?

On multiple occasions, I have repeated “Don’t complain, learn to compliment” to myself, and the moment I’ve done this, things have worked in a better way. I leave you here with the same advice today. Do implement it and see the magic work.

And hey you! Thanks for being here. Means a lot. If you liked reading this, do share it with others, comment your thoughts on it and help share the optimism.

Comments

  1. Unknown4 February 2021 at 10:26

    Great one sir we are truly honoured to be your student 👍👍👍

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  2. The Writer in Purple4 February 2021 at 10:43

    Wow Sir this one is really great. You told us about it once

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  3. Yourhiness4 February 2021 at 10:51

    A Good one sir . Got a rough idea about this only a few days ago , but now it's clear ! " don't complain , learn to compliment. "

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  4. Mat4 February 2021 at 11:06

    A good one

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  5. prachiti4 February 2021 at 11:58

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  6. prachiti4 February 2021 at 11:59

    Highly motivated after this..😊👍

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  7. Unknown4 February 2021 at 13:42

    Really great blog!!! Highly motivated by your thoughts and your guidance😀😀👍

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  8. thefolkchic4 February 2021 at 14:41

    If only we would have received this advice a little earlier.. things would have been wayyy different! However, better late than never!! Good one! Keep writing!

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  9. Unknown4 February 2021 at 15:10

    True thing said!

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  10. Nimeesh parjane4 February 2021 at 16:49

    VERY NICE SIR ☺☺

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  11. Unknown4 February 2021 at 17:08

    Fantastic sir . A great blog.

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  12. Atharva Ghawate4 February 2021 at 19:08

    Nice one sir. Keep it up and will be waiting for the next one��������

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  13. Unknown4 February 2021 at 22:01

    Good one Ashish Sir Nicely Written

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  14. Digajmaan Advocate4 September 2021 at 06:46

    Well I think that was the only common factor too between us.... We started complimenting each other and my best moments and best DSLR clicks are with you... Isn't it.... Time worth spent.... Life worth lived....

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  15. Anonymous3 October 2021 at 18:02

    This one is realy good one Ashish sir .......you are really a good blogger.

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